AND your understanding of 3 things…

Think about this: When you DON’T get upset about something happening, it’s because you can process the situation, use past experiences, emotions and events to deal with it in the present. When something good happens, or doesn’t affect you negatively, it’s because you know what’s going on, how you feel and the four BE elements you’re about to learn are all in a state of balance. Whether you already know what they are or not.

Yet when things don’t go the way we expect, and we don’t know what to do, that’s when the emotions come up. And our reaction and our often unhelpful behaviour.

This is, of course, until we understand what’s really happening and how to express it so both you and the people around you can find a solution quickly and less painfully.

Sometimes this takes minutes, sometimes years, because often we don’t fully understand what is “off” that’s causing us the problem.

So you can:

• Strengthen emotional bonds so you can create a more loving and supportive family environment.
• Reduce parental stress so you can enjoy more quality time with your children.
• Improve understanding between partners so you can navigate life’s challenges together more smoothly.
• Enhance communication during conflicts so you can resolve disputes without damaging relationships.
• Cultivate patience and tolerance so you can handle parenting challenges with grace and composure.
• Encourage mutual respect so you can model positive relationships for your children.
• Balance family responsibilities fairly so you can prevent resentment from building up between partners.
• Foster a sense of teamwork in family tasks so you can teach your children the value of cooperation.
• Increase empathy within the family so you can understand and address each other’s needs more effectively.
• Develop clearer parenting strategies so you can provide consistent guidance and structure for your children.
• Manage family time more effectively so you can ensure that everyone’s priorities are met.
• Strengthen the parental partnership so you can present a united front in child-rearing.
• Teach children about personal boundaries so they can develop healthy relationships outside the home.
• Enhance problem-solving skills so you can guide your family through difficulties with confidence.
• Cultivate a nurturing home environment so you can support the emotional and psychological growth of all family members.
• AND understand yourself on a new level so you can stop using your past, your parents and your childhood as an excuse for not be-ing more today!

(Are those benefits enough, or do you need more?)

And have it last a lifetime?

Welcome to the BE book Launch!

You don’t need gimmicks, ra ra speeches, or fancy 15-module programs to change. your life or the way you look at things any more than you need a Formula 1 steering wheel to drive your first car.

There are three things that, when understood, will give you the insights to make the changes you need and stick with them. This will, in turn, give you confidence, calm, clarity, and a sense of BE-ing that you’ve probably never felt before on this level.

No fluff. No bumpf. No talking to you like you’re three years old. No labels, no buzzwords, not personality tests eiher!

THE THREE THINGS

1: THE EXPERIENCE LOOP – The 5 stages that contain everything from the past right up to the present moment that contributes to who we are today in more ways than you could imagine. This is the “this is who I am” section, or rather, who you have LEARNED to be.

2: THE BE ELEMENTS – The four core elements or states of be-ing that we sense in any situation on a subconscious level and trigger our reactions, behaviour and emotions, both when things are gong well, and when they’re not. When these are in balance, we find love, joy and happiness. When they’re not, and we don’t understand why, or which one is out of balance, we react with emotions, triggers and reactive behaviour.

3: THE RAMP-IT FRAMEWORK – A simple yet profound self-coaching framework to set you up for success, and know how to check in to make sure you’re still on track.

You get ALL of this in one book, because when you understand all three, you now have a fighting chance of being the change you know you can be.

Good questions. The book is about understanding the four root causes of our emotions, triggers and reactions, and why we hold onto them. It also covers the context and interplay between them and how it affects the emotion, reaction and level of the emotion. It also covers what causes them to be mild or extreme (aka the Catalyst Stack) and how to navigate this so you can “be” calmer, less reactive, able to regulate emotions and situations, understand other people, unravel past events, enjoy life and love more and possibly even heal emotional trauma.

It did for me, and it did it quickly once I really understood it. And I am an overly sensitive man who had a pretty rough childhood in England. I have many reasons to hold onto what was done “to” me and let it affect me and my children. And I did, for years.

I’ve seen the benefits people who only read the introduction have had, and they were incredible. The rest of the book digs deep without getting into chemicals, the brain, or blame. The goal is to keep this simple.

AND there are no tests or quizzes!! Why? because it’s all situational. Just learning what’s in here could potentially change the result of every personality test you’ve ever taken!!

You want to be less reactive.

You want to understand and have better relationships with yourself, your partner, kids, teammates, friends, and even strangers so they affect you less.

With this book. that will be possible, and the ripple effects of having this understanding will be with you for the rest of your life.

Big claims, I know. After writing my first book, There’s a Reason for That, and creating a masterclass and community on self-coaching, I kept being brought back to these four elements. I could see, instantly, how I was affecting other people and myself and why they were reacting to me, themselves and other people. More importantly, I learned to diffuse emotional situations quickly and painlessly.

Clarity is what we’re looking for. Simply, quickly and in a way that makes sense in the real world.

Why a cat? Because they know how to just “be”!

Hi. Im Nolan Collins. A lifelong trainer in many industries and fields. I love teaching, training and helping people discover lightbulb moments that change their perspective and improve their lives.

Apart from being a trainer at heart, and a certified life-coach (although I don’t do life-coaching!) I’m a guy who, like many people, had a childhood and life full of excuses to have lifelong trauma.

Divorced parents – check

Bullied relentlessly at boarding school – check

Moved several times – check

Never felt understood as a child – check

A parent who was unaware of what’s in this course on sooooo many levels – check check check check!

Divorced – check (and check!)

Had my kids tell me they hate me – check, check, check
(they don’t anymore! I have an amazing relationship with both of them now!!)

Me after Covid. Who knew I had such curly hair?

Just before Covid lockdown, I’d been researching behaviour, life coaching and what makes people do what they do. I was in a marriage that had broken down years before and was travelling a lot for work, spending more time with my apprenticeship students than my own kids. I was miserable on many levels; I enjoyed two things: My kids when I got time with them and teaching – especially teaching this new framework called RAMP-IT to my students who were at the beginning of their own journeys.

When Covid happened, I’d just started bringing this framework to other trainers and managers in the company I worked at, and it was a big hit. Everyone who attended saw themselves using it in more ways than the training I was giving them.

I knew I was onto something, so when I was made redundant, I knew I had to keep working on it. It took a few years to consume countless more podcasts, audiobooks and paperbacks, as well as several courses on life coaching and behaviour. All of this did one thing: It validated the fact that my simple framework was in everything.

Just like the Hero’s Journey is in every good movie, RAMP-IT is present in every life situation, shift, change, task, relationship, and goal—if you want it to succeed.

The BE Elements was initially a pattern I noticed when explaining the Mind/Body State of RAMP-IT. It became somewhat of an obsession once I realized just how powerful these four elements are in understanding our past and present and preparing us for the future.

So that’s me and my story in a nutshell. I’m passionate about helping people, training, and understanding how it all fits together. And here we are!

I only have a few requests:

1) Read the book as it is being written. You’ll be notified by email any day when I’ve made changes or added content.

2) Offer feedback. Does it resonate? How? Where?

3) Watch any training material as it is created.

4) Be prepared to share what you’re learning with your friends and family, and the book when it launches in June. Yes, June 2024.

5) Be honest. with yourself and me and engage with me and the community. It is a safe space!

6) Be prepared to give a testimonial that I can put either in the book, on the website or both.

7) Join the coaching sessions in the FaceBook group and ask questions.

Thats it.

What you’ll get from me:

• Access to the community
• Access to the foreword and introduction immediately.
• Access to the RAMP-IT Effective Self-Coaching Masterclass and all its bonuses instantly
• Regular updates on the book.
• A weekly group coaching session.
• Me, answering questions in the Facebook group almost daily.

AND

If over 100 people join the community before the book launches, you will also get access to the next 5 planned books as they are being written. So please tell those people you know who are emotionally reactive, or just emotional, and want to know how to regulate themselves easier and faster.

I get it. I’ve looked at programs, courses and communities and had thoughts come up that stopped me. Its new. I don’t know anyone. What if they know it’s me? What if my problems aren’t that bad? What if I look weird? Will this really explain what all those other books have missed? Is it really as simple as he’s making it out to be?

“I don’t know” is the truthful answer. I don’t know if you’re ready. I don’t know what you are determined to hold on to, but I do know why you do it, and you’ll find that answer in here! You can also post anonymously in the facebook group if you don’t want anyone to know it’s you.

What I also know is that I, my partner, my kids and friends all use what’s in this course, and my other programme based on self-coaching and we are all calmer and able to deal with stressful or reactive situations faster, easier and not let “shift” slow us down for long, or at all. If you take the time to learn and apply what’s in here, and really want to stop being controlled by your past and your emotions, then yes, it can work for you too.